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Praise Your Children to Boost Their Self-Esteem

Praising a child correctly is important to the development of positive behaviors. It’s a great way to encourage constructive future behavior. When you give praise you are giving your child a feeling of positive feedback, which increases their sense of confidence, self esteem and abilities.  When you praise your child, you are pointing out the way they’ve acted, an action they’ve taken, or simply who they are. When your child looks good, tell him so. When your child does anything that pleases you, let him know. You should also praise a child’s effort to do well, even if it doesn’t come out so good in the end. You should find something each day about your child to praise.

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Be on the lookout constantly for behaviors or actions deserving of praise, but don’t be over the top about it.  Be sincere and honest in your praise. Wait for unexpected or previously unnoticed good behavior and praise your child for it.  And when you see such action or behaviors, praise immediately so the child will know exactly what behavior or action was deemed praiseworthy. It’s also very important to look your child square in the eye when you praise him, and reinforce the positive behavior, action or trait being praised with a gesture such as a warm smile, a hug, scruff of the hair, or caress his face while you tell him.

Be exact, and state precisely what action, behavior or trait you find praiseworthy.  And most importantly, never directly follow praise with criticism or negative comments.  Let your child know what they did right and reward them for it before you let them know what they did wrong and punish for misbehaving or a misdeed.

So be sure to admire and congratulate your child and celebrate the good person they are growing into by praising their positive actions, behaviors and traits daily.  You’ll be building a strong sense of self in your child and you’ll grow closer as a result.

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Effective Disciplining

Disciplining a young child using the time out method can be very effective, and will work  with children as young as 18-24 months old. By using this method of discipline parents are giving the child time to sit quietly and alone after misbehaving, without becoming angry or agitated with the child.

Designate an appropriate area in the house where the child is isolated from interacting with others.  It can be a corner in their bedroom, a space on the kitchen floor or a special chair that’s labeled specifically for time outs.  The length should be age appropriate.  A good rule of thumb is generally one minute per year of age.  A kitchen timer is helpful in counting down your child’s punishment time.

Time out for toddlers is used to give them a chance to regroup and calm down. It’s doubtful they will sit completely still, and they should not be forced to try.

All children should be asked in a firm but pleasant tone to complete a designated task or stop an undesired behavior.  If their behavior persists, they should be verbally directed to behave once again, with eye contact being made and the time out spot pointed out.  If after this warning the behavior still persists, they should be escorted to the time out location and told exactly why they are being sent there. Maintain a calm but firm tone with them.  Once they’ve quietly served their time in the time out location it’s important to discuss with the child why they were sent there and that if the behavior occurs again, they will again be sent to time out.  Older children should then agree to do what you told him to do or cease misbehaving.  Children who leave their time out location before their time is up must be made aware that privileges will be lost as a result.

It’s likely that your time out method will have to be modified to fit the temperament of your child and your own parenting style. And remember to reinforce positive behavior with praises, hugs and smiles.  Time out can successfully be used outside the home such a grocery stores, restaurants, or shopping centers.  It’s important to emphasize to the child that time out will be enforced should they misbehave while there.  Be consistent and place the child in time out should they misbehave in the store.  If you don’t, they’ll get the message early on that you’re inconsistent and will be more likely to test your boundaries.

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Buffalo Chicken Tacos Recipe

Ingredients:

3 boneless skinless chicken breasts (sliced into 1 inch chunks”
oil (for deep frying)
1 cup all purpose flour
½ teaspoon black pepper
2 teaspoons salt
¼ teaspoons garlic powder
1 egg
1 cup milk
½ cup hot sauce
2 tablespoons butter
1 package small flour tortillas
romaine lettuce (sliced)
roma tomatoes (chopped)
shredded cheddar cheese
blue cheese dressing

Step 1: Heat oil in a deep fryer to 375 degrees. In a large bowl combine flour, black pepper, salt, and garlic powder. In a medium bowl beat together the eggs and milk. First roll the chicken pieces in the flour mixture, then dip into the egg mixture and roll the chicken bits once more in the flour mixture until well coated.

Step 2: Deep fry breaded chicken bits in batches at 375 degrees for about 5 minutes per batch or until chicken is fully cooked. Drain on paper towels.

Step 3: While chicken is frying, in a small sauce pan over low heat add hot sauce and butter. Cook until the butter has melted and is combined with the hot sauce. In a large bowl toss the chicken bits with hot sauce until fully coated.

Step 4: to make tacos- place a few buffalo chicken pieces onto the bottom of a flour tortilla. Top with lettuce, tomato, cheddar cheese, and blue cheese.
(Makes 4 Servings)

Recipe Courtesy of:  http://blogchef.net/buffalo-chicken-tacos-recipe/

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Perks of Having and Raising Twins

Raising twins can be a little demanding. Compared to normal parents with normal kids, having twins means you have to do a double take on everything. As you get through the regime, you can make a lot of adjustments and improvise on your ways to do what must be done in less time and be more productive.

There is no complaining here, being a parent is the epitome of human existence but being a parent of two kids at the same time, places me where? At first, being a parent of two kids with same demands and woes can be gruesome. It means you have to spend money twice, do the washing twice, the bathing twice and the food preparation twice. When you get the hang of thing, as every parent usually does, you get to have fun with the experience.

Looking at the brighter side of it, there are perks of having twins. Despite the demands of raising twins, having two means you get to enjoy things double. Here are the things I like about being a mother of twins.

1. I get to raise my shopping budget without worrying whether I am spending too much

Aside from having the chance to show off my twins in the mall which is a sure way to make me a superstar mom, I also get the best deals. Buy one take one is a major eye catcher for me. I can stock loads of diapers and not worry whether it is too much. Aside from the fact that I am spending for my kids and not for myself, there is no complaining here. I like buying things for the twins and spending for shopping even if I don’t really get to wear and use what I bought.

I just don’t think shopping would be a breeze when you have paternal twins. Twins with different gender can cause shopping to be a little too much.

2. When you have twins, you don’t need to worry about entertaining them

My twins entertain each other. They don’t need me to play with them, they don’t need another playmate, they are just happy as they are. You can just leave them as they are and do your chores, wait till its feeding time or time to change diapers then they are good to go again. You just have to worry about tantrums. Although by experience, when the one cries the other tries to sing a duet with the crying gal and it can be a handful.

3. Too much love compensates for all the hard work

When you see your kids smile, it just warms your heart right? How much more if you see two kids smiling at you? Just like silently thanking you for the love and affection you have shown them. It makes you even prouder to see them in their first step or the first time they say “Mama”. Everything they do just makes you happy and not to mention its double.

Having twins can be a handful, but when you look at the joy it brings, it is as if nothing can compensate for the joy and love. Being a parent to twins either identical or paternal twins is something that you can be very proud of.

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Child Behavioral Problems

Disciplining a young child using the break method can be very effective, and will work with children as young as 18-24 months old. By using this method of discipline parents are giving the child time to sit quietly and alone after misbehaving, without becoming angry or agitated with the child.

Designate an appropriate area in the house where the child is isolated from interacting with others. It can be a corner in their bedroom, a space on the kitchen floor or a special chair that’s labeled specifically for recess. The length should be age appropriate. A good guidepost is generally one minute p.a. aged. A kitchen timer is helpful in counting down your child’s punishment time.

Break for toddlers is wont to give them a chance to regroup and calm down. It’s doubtful they will sit completely still, and they should not be forced to try.

All children should be asked in a firm but pleasant tone to complete a designated task or stop an undesired behavior. If their behavior persists, they should be verbally directed to behave again, with eye contact being made and the recess spot pointed out. If after this warning the behavior still persists, they should be escorted to the break location and told exactly why they are being sent there. Maintain a calm but firm tone with them. Once they ‘ve quietly served their time in the recess location it ‘s important to discuss with the child why they were sent there and that if the behavior occurs again, they will again be sent to recess. Older children should then agree to do what you told him to do or cease misbehaving. Children who leave their recess location before their time is up must be made aware that privileges will be lost as a result.

It’s likely that your respite method will have to be modified to fit the temperament of your child and your own parenting style. And remember to reinforce positive behavior with praises, hugs and smiles. Time out can successfully be used outside the home such a market, restaurants, or center. It ‘s important to emphasize to the child that respite will be enforced should they misbehave while there. Be consistent and place the child in time out should they misbehave in the store. If you don’t, they’ll get the message early that you ‘re inconsistent and will be more likely to test your boundaries.

The Happy Child Guide changes the way parents think about raising smart, happy and cooperative kids. Click this link to order your guide now

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Easy Enchilada

“Easy Enchilada”

Makes 8 Servings

Ingredients:

One 28-ounce can crushed tomatoes
1 tablespoon canola oil
One 16-ounce bag frozen mixed bell pepper strips, thawed
2 teaspoons ground cumin
1 teaspoon chili powder
1 teaspoon onion powder
1 teaspoon garlic powder
1 teaspoon dried oregano
1/4 teaspoon salt
One 12- or 16-ounce bag meat-free or soy crumbles
One 15 1/2-ounce can black beans, drained and rinsed
Twelve 6-inch corn tortillas
2 cups preshredded reduced-fat Cheddar cheese
One 2 1/4-ounce can sliced olives, drained, optional
1/2 cup reduced-fat sour cream

Directions

Lightly oil or coat a 9 X 13-inch baking pan with nonstick cooking spray. Spread 1/4 cup of the crushed tomatoes evenly over the bottom of the pan and set aside.
Heat the oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add the bell peppers, cumin, chili powder, onion powder, garlic powder, oregano, and salt and cook until the peppers are tender, about 5 minutes.
Add the remaining crushed tomatoes, the meat-free crumbles, and beans and stir to combine. Cook, stirring frequently, for 5 minutes.
Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F.
Arrange 6 tortillas on the bottom of the baking pan, allowing them to overlap. Top evenly with half the bean mixture and 1 cup of cheese. Arrange the remaining tortillas over the cheese. Top with the remaining bean mixture, cheese, and olives if desired.
Bake uncovered until the cheese melts and the casserole is heated through, about 20 minutes. Serve with sour cream.

Nutrition Information per Serving: 320 calories, 8g fat (3g saturated), 560mg sodium, 43 carbohydrate, 10g fiber, 23g protein

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